Romance and Conception
Romance should be a way of life, not a moment. When a couple embraces a romantic philosophy on the many levels of their marriage, life tastes sweeter. When each notices the small things, romance exists. When each considers the other first, romance exists. When each listens and each shares, romance exists. When romance is part of your marriage like breathing, the years together through the tough and tame times are so much better.”
This is good advice whether you’ve been married two years or 22, but I feel that it’s better to start early in the marriage and make it a habit. “I would offer a word of advice for newly married couples,” “Incorporate romantic principles when your marriage begins. Know that the romance in a marriage changes as each year passes. Yet, if nurtured by both parties, the romance, the relationship, will deepen and become as a precious jewel.”
The principles for keeping the magic or spark in a relationship are a combination of the physical and emotional or spiritual. Although this may sound like an old-fashioned idea, the physical perspective is to maintain a neat appearance. Often, women and men let themselves “go” the more comfortable they get in a relationship. It’s difficult to feel particularly romantic toward someone with messy hair and untidy nightgowns. This makes the partner really uncomfortable.
However, it’s a fact that romance includes a mental and spiritual connection with your mate. This doesn’t necessarily mean religious, but a shared interest in each other’s work, solving problems together and delving into spiritual or emotional issues. Building this type of emotional intimacy solders the marital connection.
For couples who are in the earlier stages of a marriage and are planning to have children, or perhaps are even trying to conceive, it’s important not to get too caught up in the “busyness or business” of sex, but rather to enjoy the moment. Many young couples, whether because they want a strictly planned pregnancy or because they’re having fertility problems, become very serious about sex once they decide to conceive.
After marriage some couples become neurotic if they do not conceive as per the advice of their gynaec to have sex during the fertility periods and thus their sex life is definitely taken for a hit.
The verbatim of some one in a therapy is like this: “Sex has become stressful because we can only really make love at certain times, and sometimes my husband doesn’t even want to do that,” she says. “We try to keep it as spontaneous as possible, but there are only certain things you can do. At this point, we’re just making the best we can out of it.”
I feel it’s important to try not to obsess about the conception aspect of sex when you are trying to conceive. Rather, you look at conception as a fun, new adventure. “When you make love with someone you care about with the purpose of reproducing, it puts a whole new intensity on the act,”. “If you begin to look at sex as a means to an end [and] conception doesn’t happen right away, couples tend to become frustrated and disappointed and then focus even more on conception rather than just having great sex.”
It has also been observed that good sex can actually assist in conception. “If a woman is more aroused and, as a result, producing more lubrication, the sperm has a better chance of survival,” “Also, if she reaches orgasm, the contractions actually help the semen get sucked up and give the sperm a running start.”
Enjoy it! Embrace it! Experience the freedom of not worrying about birth control. It may be one of the few times that you can.
